On getting a second opinion


I might have mentioned it a time or two. During pregnancy, I have low platelets, or itp (yikes, that make is sound super scary). Each time, it’s only resulted in more blood tests and worries about getting an epidural. Which is what I’ve done for every birth (worry and an epidural). They were really low when I was in labor with E. Like almost too low.

So I knew I needed a new plan this time around. One that isn’t a back up plan, but is the plan for delivery. One that doesn’t depend on an epidural. And that’s when I realized that I was likely not going to stick with my current OB (the one that asked if I wanted to be induced at the mention of a 12/31 due date!). I needed a second opinion. It’s so very important and my health and the health of my unborn daughter depend on me getting the best care and being comfortable with it. Up until today? I really wasn’t.

Tonight, the hubby and I went to a meet and great with a local midwife group. I was already pretty sure they were going to be an integral part of my new birth plan. After talking with one of the midwives one-on-one and giving her a 2 minute synopsis of all previous births, she already had a different opinion of how things should go. One that was much more in agreement with how I wanted my birth to go (and to be honest, how I wanted all of my previous births to go). One that has my baby on my chest at birth. And one that lets nature take it’s course.

Second opinions

Second opinions should be standard 

It’s funny, though, so often, we will get a second opinion for things like our house, our car, or even education. But, when it comes to all things health related, we aren’t so inclined. We assume that all doctors and care givers only have our best interest as a priority and I don’t think that’s the case. This is a sponsored post. However, all thoughts and opinions are my own.

Second Opinion

I once had a root canal and never even considered getting a second opinion. Almost 10 years later, that tooth still bothers me! I also wish that we would have had a second opinion on my giant gap in my front teeth. But the dentist said it wasn’t necessary to be fixed. However, there weren’t great options for clear braces back when I would have needed them. I think this would have helped push my mom towards letting me address the gap issue because there would have been no food restrictions, I would have been able to continue with healthy dental brushing habits, and most people wouldn’t have even known I was treating it.

When was the last time you had a second opinion for your health or someone in your family?

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  1. Was the meet and greet with my midwives? I big fat giant puffy heart them.

  2. I forced my aunt to get a second opinion when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Not so much for the diagnosis but the treatment seemed really excessive and they hadn’t even done extra testing. It was the right call. I think she got much better care at the new place. Best wishes for the rest if your pregnancy and birth!!!

  3. You make such a good point. There are a lot of procedures I have had done or things I have purchases where I should have gotten a second opinion.

  4. Getting a second opinion on medical info is so important. I work in healthcare and it’s a must! Love the pic of you and your baby! Adorable!

  5. You are so right – second opinions are important! Maybe even third! My son has a recessed jaw line and we went to FIVE orthos to get opinions. The problem is they really all have different opinions and then it gets even more confusing.

  6. I have never heard of this before. I agree in second opinions because many times things are mis-diagnosed or missed.

  7. This was wonderfully written! It’s always so surprising how many people don’t get second opinions on important life events. I also wish I would have gotten a second opinion (or check out other OBs) during my pregnancy with my son. My OB was horrible and didn’t listen to the birthing plan I had in mind. When it comes to dental care, I’ve done the same thing. While the oral surgeon that did my root canal was great, he did something wrong and now I don’t have feeling in my bottom lip on the right. So…always get a second opinion, especially when it comes to your well-being!

  8. my mom got a second opinion on ortho when I was little because I cried hysterically after hearing the first one say he wanted me in full headgear (think 16 candles) 24 hours a day for at least 6 months.

  9. 2nd opinions are SO important but especially when it comes to pregnancy. I am a major believer that your birth plan should go the way YOU want.

  10. Yes I totally agree. Getting a second opinion is how we found our children’s current pediatrician. We refused to let the doctors just do what they want.

  11. That is a great point. We often take what our doctors tell us as the only option and dont’ ever try and find another opinion.

  12. Glad you got a second opinion! It isn’t something I typically do but really should.

  13. If I got a serious result from a doctor or if something didn’t seem right, I would definitely get a second opinion.

  14. I think it’s fantastic that you have a midwife group to go too. That’s a lot of support from very neutral ground! And filled with super good experience!

  15. So many times I think about becoming a midwife. I always thought I would go back to school for nursing, but there are so many restrictions and regulations now it seems that it makes it so difficult for nurses to do their jobs.
    So glad you got a second opinion and found a midwife you are comfortable with.

  16. When it comes to my health, I always get a second opinion. It might look as if I’m neurotic at first but at the end I’m always glad I did.

  17. I loved my midwives. I had them for my first two pregnancy and then we moved. I was recommended to have an OB Surgeon for my at risk pregnancy and it just wasn’t the same. He was a good doctor and all but not the same like my midwives.

  18. My dentist actually had me seek out a second opinion on a bad tooth. I ended up needed a root canal but a specialist had to do it due to a nerve being in a weird place.

  19. I was just commenting on another post that we rarely get a second opinion for anything. I’m sure over the years that has cost us. I like to think that we do enough research and get word of mouth opinions from friends and family that we still would have chosen the providers we have, but I KNOW that we shouldn’t always go with the first person we meet with and take their opinion as gold over getting a second one.

  20. You’ve made some very good points.

    I don’t get a lot of second opinions. That’s not to say that I don’t do research – I just don’t have time to schedule another doctors appointment (sometimes having to wait a week or more to get in – despite having an acute problem) or another appointment for an estimate on this or that.

    Luckily, I have never had a health problem so significant that it required a second opinion.

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