I caught myself saying something this week without even really thinking about it.
“I wish I could see myself through your eyes.”
Because I don’t.
Sure, maybe I’m too hard on myself. Maybe I have higher standards. Maybe it’s just a mom thing?
But, really, why can’t I take a compliment? About being a mom? Wife? Sister? Human being? I hear it. I understand what they are saying, but in my brain it just computes to words that don’t really mean what they say.
“That was a great event!”
No, no it wasn’t. This was supposed to happen. So-and-so had a fit. I had to yell.
“You are a rockstar for taking all the girls out to dinner/ to the doctor/ to the aquarium, etc.”
No I’m not. It’s what I had to do. They had fun. I’m exhausted. I probably had to yell.
“I can’t believe you cooked dinner tonight with everything else going on.”
Eh. It’s not that good. I forgot to cook the broccoli. Somebody found old cereal on the floor. And ate it.
I’m thinking that this isn’t just me. I’m thinking that all of us moms need to have our eyes opened. Of course there are moments of meltdowns. Misunderstandings. Communication breakdowns. Stuff not getting done.
But, there are also moments where we get it right. Everybody has fun. Thanks yous are muttered without reminders. People are happy.
If I type it, or speak it, maybe I’ll do better.
I’ll open my eyes to what everybody else sees. I’ll try to look through another set of eyes. And, I’ll be careful not do it with rose-colored glasses.
Are you able to see without your mom eyes? Really see what others see in you? How do you do it?
It’s time again for Mommy and Me Monday. Pop out from behind that camera and capture yourself in action with your kids. Check out the inaugural Mommy and Me Monday for more information. Need another reason to participate in Mommy and Me Monday? Read my post about why I blog with words from a friends’ husband.
**There really is only one requirement here, a picture of you and your baby or babies; your children, your “baby” (ie significant other) or even your fur babies. If your picture doesn’t feature you (meaning you must be in the picture), I will have to delete your link. It’s not fair to the others that follow the rules.*